The invitation we received for dinner was somewhat unusual, but nothing to write home about. What happened once we got there was……well, I’ll get to that in due time. Just hold your horses.
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Louie Is Lost; Louie Is Found (an Interlude)
At last, a ‘Word of the Day’ that I can use in an article. In fact, the one I’m working on now. Every morning, Barbara’s phone gives her a different word, most of which none of us has ever heard of, many of which became archaic three hundred years ago. In fact, one may wonder, are they making these up? The word of the day on May 5, 2026 was ‘clowder,’ described as referring, among other things, to a herd of cats. Let me check this out. Does anybody else in Ma’ale Adumim, in Israel, or anywhere else on this blessed planet have the formidable two volume set of The Compact Edition of the Oxford English Dictionary – complete with magnifying glass so you can read the tiny print – anybody in addition to David Brownstein and myself? I pulled mine down, and, sure enough, there is a brief reference to ‘clowder’ as a variant of ‘cludder,’ probably related to ‘clutter,’ as in a mass of stuff, which might include a herd of cats.
Continue readingThree Meals Partaken under the Shadow of War — Part 1
Yom Haatzmaut is, what, in two weeks? I need to contact Jeff and June and make sure we’re getting together.
Some habits die hard; some you never want to let go of. For eighteen years – with a few exceptions caused by temporary unavailability, epidemics, or wars – we and the Glazers, longtime friends from Teaneck, have spent quality time together on this notable day of the Israeli calendar. It just wouldn’t be the same without them. (And again, the lack of an index to posts about previous occasions is unfortunate.) When the four of us first arrived here, we began going to barbecues at friends of our friends in Rosh Haayin, which tradition continued until, out of the blue, the man and his wife were no longer living together, and we were left to fend for ourselves. Jeff picked up the slack for a few years at their home in The Gush, and then, by mutual consent, we would meet at a restaurant somewhere in Jerusalem. The dairy restaurant Piccolino was our venue of choice, until we had a better idea. One of the bands in which our friend Arvin plays the trumpet started performing at the First Station every Independence Day. Why don’t the Casdens and the Glazers meet up there, have lunch at a dairy restaurant, and mosey over to the bandstand in time to hear the music? That worked for several years, but not this year—for reasons we can only assume has something to do with ‘the situation.’
Me and the Other Guy
Me: I accept the fact that he has ended at least a dozen wars…
Other guy: A dozen? That’s more than I remember.
Me: If you count the ones he doesn’t usually mention, like the Crimean War, the Franco-Austrian War, and the War of Roses. But what I was getting at was that I should also get some credit, if not for ending the current situation, for at least postponing another round of fighting. And that took some planning.
Other guy: This I gotta hear.
I Got Sludge…
This is important. We just got a message from Dr. Rubin’s office. He wants you to come in either this Thurs. or Sun. Like any good card-carrying hypochondriac, I immediately went into full panic mode. Any time a doctor tells you to come in to see him A.S.A.P, something must be wrong, and I spent the next few days, often lying awake in my bed at 3AM, imagining the worst, because that’s what good hypochondriacs do whenever they get the chance. (It’s cancer. You have only six months to live…) We would find out the truth on Thursday when we would see the good doctor, but until then, in the immortal words of Alfred E. Neuman, What me worry? Damn right, I will.
Well, there’s that…
You’ll sure have something to write about for your blog. No doubt about that, Ezra! Earlier that week, he had made a suggestion – no, a request – that until things calmed down, that we move our Shabbat morning kiddush to their place of residence, as he felt uncomfortable leaving Shoshana to shepherd their two teenagers down to their miklat if – better, when – there was a siren. Sure enough, at about 11AM that Shabbat, we heard the strident sound of the alarm, and we all trudged down the two flights to the entrance and the two additional flight to the sub-basement.
This Wasn’t Supposed to Happen
That’s not a siren I’m hearing. It can’t be. I must be imagining. Why would there be a siren out of nowhere at 8AM on a Shabbat morning? And then I heard my wife’s dulcet tones from the other room. ‘Fred, get your ass into the mamad; we just heard a siren.’ Well, that settled that. As I explained to her through the bathroom door, ‘I can’t come right now; I’m working on a project in the small room; it’ll have to wait.’
I did finally join her, and together we tried to figure out what was going on. By this time, Barbara had turned on her phone, and at least we understood that we were now in the middle of a war, and the sirens meant we were being attacked.
And then our land line started ringing. If someone is calling us now on this phone right after there’s been a siren, it must be important, and we’d better answer. Sure enough, it was Hadassah hospital. My procedure, scheduled for the next day, had been cancelled, as well as everything else not deemed absolute emergency. Patients were being discharged, if at all possible. Don’t worry, you’re on the top of the list. We’ll call you to reschedule.
I.A.G.A.T.P. — Part Two
I really enjoyed the parody of ‘Back in the Saddle Again’ in your last post. But why didn’t you include the second stanza? No good reason, I suppose. So, by popular demand, here it is:
Back in the E.R. once more/With a catheter bag on the floor/Will the Good Lord hear my plea/So I finally get to pee/Back in the E.R. again. (It works better if you know Gene Autry’s original, which can be accessed here.)
This Was the Week That Shouldn’t Have Been — Part Two
You are NOT going to the shuk this morning; we are going to the Emergency Room. There was a time – when I was in my salad days – that I would have argued with Barbara: Let’s wait and see if it clears up by itself. These days, when all my salad greens are wilting, I know better. When you wake up on a Thurs. morning, and your catheter bag is filled (filled!) with blood, you don’t ask questions and you don’t make excuses. So I got myself ready, while Barbara made some phone calls to get at least an unofficial referral from Maccabi, and off we went to Hadassah.
This Was the Week That Shouldn’t Have Been — Part One
It started out with a chuckle and ended – at least we hope it ended – with a sigh of relief, after two previous sighs that didn’t amount to a hill of beans. Barbara had received the following set of instructions, entitled, ‘Preparing for your Colonoscopy with Picolax’ (a routine diagnostic procedure, nothing to worry about), which included the following unexpected bit of advice: ‘Arrival for an exam performed under sedation with a firearm is strictly forbidden.’ (They’re going to sedate you with a firearm? They’re going to shoot you first and ask questions later?)
We, of course, shared this morsel with Natania when she, Gil, Liel, and infant Gefen spent Shabbat with us. Natania, because she is my daughter, thought about the matter overnight and, at lunch, posed the following question. Let’s suppose that something bad happens, and they have to stop the procedure in the middle. Would that be a semi-colonoscopy? At which point, Barbara wondered if the procedure was a success, would she get her period back?
The next day (Sun. Jan. 25) Barbara and I were sitting in the waiting room at Asuta, waiting for her turn. She decided to use the facilities one more time before she went in, at which point I saw a message on the ‘AJ and Byna Lee’s friends’ WhatsApp group that AJ had just died. Not exactly a surprise but very much less than welcome news.
The couple were part of the ‘Class of 2008’ NBN arrivals. We ran into them the very first day they were in The Land, standing in Yaron’s hardware store, looking for a shower curtain. There was that expression on their faces, the ‘Deer in the headlights’ look, when you’re in a new country, don’t speak the language, and don’t even know what something is called, but you need it anyway. Fortunately, Barbara was there to help out, and we celebrated their arrival and first successful purchase with a cup of whatever at Aroma.
Even then, AJ was not in ‘the pink.’ In The States, he had worked, among other things, as a trader on the Chicago Mercantile Exchange and as an auto mechanic. He was as handy as it gets. Let’s say your washing machine is on the fritz. Most of us would pick up the phone and call the ‘instalator’ to come over and get it working again. AJ would take the thing apart, figure out what was wrong, head into Jerusalem to the one store that sells random parts, get what he needed, and fix it himself. But, as I implied, his days of full-time employment were at an end, and as the years went by, his condition got worse and worse. Still he was the most cheerful guy around, full of funny stories, which made him beloved by the proverbial ‘one and all.’
And then…. Barbara and I had arranged to meet them recently in Jerusalem when they had come in from Beit Shemesh for one of AJ’s many medical exams, and the change in him was obvious. All the joy, all the energy had been drained from his face; he seemed a shell of his old self. Even though, potentially, there were some new promising treatments for his Krohn’s, it was all too little and too late. AJ had had enough. It was just a matter of time until the final curtain. Barbara was offered a ride to the funeral that night in Beit Shemesh, but we were going straight home after Barbara’s procedure. Sometimes you gotta (not) do what you gotta (not) do.
And on that Sunday while Barbara was waiting for her colonoscopy, Iris was finally about to undergo her follow-up surgery, which had been delayed several times, partly because of bureaucratic snafus but essentially because the doctors out at Ein Kerem had to come up with a plan to remove the over-sized stone in the bile duct of a woman who already had several other debilitating surgeries over the years. The original plan was to let her go home for a few days before her surgery, but that would have involved the medical staff successfully doing something, which in the end didn’t work. So Iris remained stuck in the hospital week after week, and I kept going to her apartment every day to take care of Harley and Rafiki, promising, with the best intention, that their human mother would ‘be back soon.’
Barbara and I and The Levines had visited her a few days before her surgery. Iris was sitting in the food court adjacent to Hadassah-Ein Kerem when we arrived. She had crocheted a sweater for baby Gefen; all it needed was a button, which she would affix once she ‘got out of jail.’ Except she never did. The surgery on Sun. was not successful, and the follow-up on Mon. was no better. There was nothing more the doctors could do, and she died on Tues. AJ and Iris, two stalwarts of the Oy Vey Club, gone within two days of each other. Not what you expect to happen in one week – to put it mildly.
They bury them fast in our part of the world. Barbara was already on her way into Jerusalem to stay with our step-grand-daughter, when she got the word: the levaya for Iris is now. Another funeral she couldn’t attend. At least, we can pay some shiva calls. Iris’s daughter, Shira, would be staying with friends in Ma’ale Adumim, and we could head over there the next day.
Does anyone out there agree with me that when you’re walking into a shiva house, you never know quite what to expect: who will be there, what the mood will be, and what will be talked about. It might be chit-chat about the family by those in the know; it might be words of Torah; it might be non-sequiturs – like regurgitations from cable news that aren’t quite appropriate for the occasion. You might learn something about the deceased and the family, or maybe you won’t. You’re always glad that you are not the topic of conversation.
I had one worry, and it was quickly dispelled after we arrived to where Shira was sitting. Having spent a month taking care of Iris’s two cats, I was afraid that I would get stuck finding a new home for them. You’d have to be obtuse not to realize that Iris would come back from the grave to haunt those involved if the cats were not taken care of properly, so I’m told that somebody will do something, and Harley and Rafiki won’t be on the street waiting for the local cat lady to feed them.
There’s also the matter of cleaning out Iris’s apartment. Can we call our late friend an ‘avid collector,’ or more to the point, an impulsive and overly-enthusiastic shopper, and leave it at that? Except that the apartment, too small for all the stuff that was in it, can’t be left as a Museum of Random Objects. (It’s all gotta go!) I mentioned that I would be available to help, but, mercifully, others in the community will be available. The least we can do for our departed friend.
Often if you ask the right question, you learn something – especially about names, as in ‘Shira’ and ‘Phillip.’ The young physically fit Irwin Blank (Iris’s late husband) served in the IDF, I believe in the Border Patrol. He had every intention of remaining in The Land, except that his father was sick, and Irwin reluctantly went back to The States. (Barbara went back because her mother was ill. I wonder how many other stories there are like that.) And then, ‘life’ intervened, as it always does. Irwin met Iris at a B’nai Zion dance. (They’re the folks who paid for our music conservatory, library, and one of the parks.) The couple had every intention of high-tailing back to Israel. So when their first child was born three years later, they gave her a Hebrew name. By the time their son was born two years after, they realized that it would be a while before they returned to the Land of Their Dreams, so they gave him a good-old American name. At least the couple did get the opportunity to return to The Land – also as part of the Class of 2008 – and live to enjoy two grandchildren, although Irwin had unfulfilled dreams of seeing Asher in an IDF uniform, and Iris… But, as I have stressed, ‘all’ often doesn’t go according to plan.
And then there was the next day to prove my point. But that’s for next time, when we describe our ‘sighs of relief,’ the real one and the distressing false alarms.
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